On a new episode of “A Healthy Point of View” podcast, Sam Tejada, CEO and Founder of Liquivida®, sits down with a guest who brings an entirely new dimension to understanding relationships. Joining from Australia, psychologist and founder of Making Relationships Work, Meg Tuohey, unpacks what relationships truly are, why they matter, and how one person has the power to shift an entire relationship dynamic even when everything feels broken.
What unfolds is a deeply human conversation about love, leadership, self-worth, trauma, and the emotional architecture behind our most important connections.
She’s Helped 4,000 Women Heal — The Secret to Transforming Any Relationship | Megan Touhey | Ep. 104
The Childhood Calling That Became Meg’s Mission
Meg remembers the moment her purpose appeared; she was just eight years old.
That was when she first heard the term child psychologist, and even without fully understanding it, she knew: That’s what I want to be. A protector, a helper, someone who made people feel safe. Years later, after an entirely different first career leading national corporate teams, she found her way back to that calling. She became a registered psychologist, opened her own practice, and quickly realized something surprising:
Helping children wasn’t about children; it was about the systems they lived in.
The family. The parents. The relationship between the adults.
And that’s when Meg pioneered something brand new in her field: A relationship transformation model that focuses on ONE person, not the couple together to lead change. Today, she has guided more than 4,000 women through crisis, healing, and rebuilding.
Why Relationships Are the Foundation of Our Lives
Sam asks a simple question: Why are relationships so important?
Meg’s answer reframes everything: “The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.”
When that relationship weakens, when someone loses connection with their own identity, intuition, or self-worth, all other relationships begin to fracture.
Isolation grows. Loneliness creeps in. And emotional health starts to decline.
But when the relationship with self is strong, we become capable of a deeper connection with others: partners, children, friends, employees, and entire communities. Relationships aren’t just social; they are biological, psychological, and spiritual fuel.
How Do You Know When a Relationship Is Broken?
According to research from The Gottman Institute, the gold standard for relationship data, the signs of a deteriorating relationship are measurable.
Meg explains that in healthy relationships, three pillars must be consistently fed:
- Connection (The Friendship System)
This means emotional deposits: noticing, appreciating, listening, valuing.
- Trust
The belief that your partner has your back.
- Commitment
A willingness to stay connected even through perpetual differences.
Most people don’t know that 70% of relationship problems are perpetual, not solvable.
You work on them for life, and that’s normal.
Where relationships break is in the slow erosion of these pillars. Not one big collapse, but a thousand tiny withdrawals from the “emotional bank account.”
Can Some Relationships Not Be Saved?
Sam asks the question everyone wants to know: Do you ever look at a couple and know they should not stay together?
Meg’s answer is powerful: It’s not her job to decide. It’s her job to provide clarity.
She guides women through understanding:
- What a healthy relationship looks like
- What their specific relationship currently is
- What is possible
- What is not
- Whether change is safe
- Whether change is realistic
- And whether their core needs can ever be met
What she offers is data, tools, and support, not verdicts. Ultimately, every person must choose their path with clarity, not fear.
Crisis, Trauma, and the Hidden Realities Behind Closed Doors
Meg gets real about what she sees inside her program:
- Addiction
- Affairs
- Neurodivergence
- Emotional neglect
- Generational trauma
- And shockingly high levels of chronic domestic violence, especially in women aged 50–80.
She reveals something unexpected:
Her team runs coaching with the ethical protocols of a clinical practice – weekly safety meetings, case reviews, risk monitoring, and systems designed to protect women in danger. This is why she can sleep at night. Because every decision prioritizes safety.
Addiction, Pornography, and the Need to Self-Sooth
When Sam asks how addiction impacts relationships, Meg breaks it down simply:
“Addiction is not about pleasure. It’s about soothing a dysregulated nervous system trying to survive.” Whether it’s porn, alcohol, drugs, or gambling, the root is the same:
Relief from internal pain.
She explains the emerging research: A large part of addiction may be tied to neurodivergence, not just chemical imbalance, in people whose nervous systems were never built for a world designed for neurotypical functioning. This understanding can change the entire direction of healing.
Can ONE Person Save a Relationship?
Sam asks the question Meg is known worldwide for: Can one person truly shift a relationship even if the partner does nothing?
Meg answers instantly: YES. Absolutely yes.
Here’s why:
- Humans “mirror” each other neurologically, emotionally, energetically
- When one person shifts their tone, boundaries, language, and energy, the other person naturally recalibrates
- Conflict reduces
- Defensiveness softens
- Curiosity returns
- New patterns emerge
- And the old narratives begin to dissolve
But this doesn’t always mean staying together. What it does mean is that the woman walks away with:
- Clarity
- Self-leadership
- Emotional mastery
- And a peaceful separation if needed
No more chaos. No more confusion. No more guilt.
Love in the Digital Age: Has It Changed?
Meg says love hasn’t changed; the access points to love has. With loneliness at an all-time high and dating apps dominated by algorithms and paywalls, people are returning to old-school connections:
- In-person events
- Bars
- Community spaces
- Real conversation
- Real chemistry
Technology has made us more connected and more disconnected than ever.
How Finances Affect Love
Should couples share bank accounts?
Meg’s answer: It depends because money means 100 different things to 100 different people.
The “right way” is whatever aligns with each couple’s values, habits, and communication patterns.
There is no universal rule. Only universal honesty.
What People Don’t Want to Hear, But Must
Sam asks Meg: What’s one truth that makes people uncomfortable?
Her response: “There is no silver bullet.” You build healthy love the same way you build a healthy life – brick by brick, moment by moment, conversation by conversation.
Relationships require courage, skill, self-reflection, and time.
Meg’s Final Message: You Are More Powerful Than You Know
In her closing heart-to-heart, Meg leaves people with a message they won’t forget:
- You have more agency than you think
- You have more strength than you believe
- You have more untapped potential than you realize
- And every ceiling in your life, every single one, is breakable
Whether you’re healing a marriage, rebuilding trust, or rediscovering yourself…
You are capable. You are powerful. You are not stuck.
Healthy relationships begin with a healthy relationship with yourself. If you’re struggling, you don’t have to do it alone. Experts like Meg exist to guide, support, and help you rebuild the connection you deserve